Hello,

I am so sorry to hear about what is happening to you - *HUGS* to you.

It sounds very painful and confusing, and I know this must be hard for you, especially since you have already been through the trauma of a miscarriage. I can understand why you are reluctant to seek out medical confirmation, but if your cramping and bleeding isn't getting any better, I urge you to do so for your own health.

I also understand your feelings of guilt, in regards to the medical treatment you were recieving for the pnemonia, but in your defense you had no idea you were pregnant, and that might not even be the reason you had a miscarriage. Many times, miscarriages occur "spontaneously" with no apparent reason - I myself didn't recieve a reason for my miscarriage. Sometimes, even if you do everything right, something still goes wrong, and there was nothing you did to cause it, and nothing you could have done to prevent it.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you; I know how painful and sad it is, and I am always here if you want to talk. Also feel free to email me at sadangel777@hotmail.com whenever you want to talk.

If you would like to read about some things that I have found helpful while dealing with this loss, check out the Stages of Grief page on the home site at: http://www.angelfire.com/emo/miscarriage/stages.htm .

Peace and Love to you,
Bonnie