Hi Katillman,

I wish I knew the answer to that question, too. I've asked the same thing many times...

I don't know why I got pregnant, either... it happened so quickly, and we were so shocked. Like you, I started to get excited and happy about the new life we somehow created, only to have it taken away. It isn't fair! It doesn't make any sense, and it is just so hard to deal with. I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this pain.

I don't think there is a reason it was taken away from you, or me, or anyone else. Sometimes things happen during a pregnancy, things that you didn't cause and couldn't have affected either way. Scientifically, it makes sense, but emotionally it doesn't make sense at all.

The only thing I can tell you is to take one day at a time, and I promise, the pain will start to lessen with time. I know you love your boys, and I know you thought your family was complete, and now you are hurt and confused and probably really wanting another baby after all. If you do decide to try again, I wish you all the best, and I will be here to support your decision. Miscarriages are very scary, but many women go on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies afterwards. I don't know if that will make you feel any better, because it doesn't bring back the baby that you came to love and lost. But I hope it helps some.

Please don't hesitate to email me at sadangel777@hotmail.com whenever you want to talk, and I hope that your pain lessens with time as mine has.

Peace and Love to you and your family,
Bonnie