I am so sorry to hear that you lost your baby - *HUGS* to you.

I used to be under the impression that people who already had children wouldn't get as sad about a miscarriage as those who don't have children - I was wrong. You have every right to be sad, just the same as people (like me) who don't have children (yet).

Please don't think God is punishing you. A loving God wouldn't punish a loving parent who simply wanted to have another baby to love and care for. I know that it is easy to blame yourself, because we tend to search for something or someone to blame, and why not ourselves since it was our body that failed us?

I wish I had answers for you, too, but all I can tell you is that sometimes pregnancies fail, for many reasons, some of them unknown to us, but that doesn't make it fair. It isn't fair. It isn't for the best, and it doesn't matter whether or not the baby was ill. We may not have miscarried in the same trimester, or at the same week, but we all have one thing in common: we once had a baby inside our tummy, and now we don't.

You have a right to be upset! You have a right to cry, to scream, to want it back. You aren't being greedy by wanting another baby, and I'm so sorry that you aren't recieving the support that you need from your friends and/or family. Unfortunately, that is a common occurence. People don't know how to face us, and mostly they don't truly understand why we are upset. They mean well, overall, but sometimes the only way to understand something is to go through it yourself.

I understand how you feel, and I am here whenever you want to talk, cry, scream, or whatever you want to do to express your frustration. It gets better with time, although for me the pain hasn't completely vanished, and on some days I still cry, but they are very few and far between.

Never hesitate to post on this board, and please email me at sadangel777@hotmail.com whenever you want to talk.

I will keep you in my thoughts and hope that your grief lessens with time as mine has.

Peace and Love to you,

Bonnie