Am so sorry for your loss, and so sorry that you are not getting thw support you need from your partner. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for feeling the way you do, it's perfectly normal to feel upset, miscarriage may be common, but that doesn't mean you should just be able to get over it. You're grieving for the loss of a child (in your case two) and that is devastating. The fact that you didn't get to hold the baby doesn't mean it's easier, if anything just makes it worse. Take as much time to grieve as you need, I had my miscarriage in January, and had to take a long time off work because I wasn't coping. It is only now (4 months on) that I'm starting to feel better. The coming months will be hard, you will be up and down and what you need is support and understanding from those around you. I did find that it was people who had been through a miscarriage who understood most, and that's why this board is helpful. Men, generally don't grieve as much as us, they didn't carry the baby. Your partner probably isn't as upset as you which may why he's struggling to understand, but even so should be being supportive and trying to help, rather than making you feel worse. Try and tell him how you feel, and I hope he can try and be supportive or you can find other friends who are. Even if he can't understand what you're going through or offer support, you shouldn't have to put up with the things he is saying. I hope you get through this and get some support.