Hi,

I did my grieving in stages though I only recognized it in hindsight, and my language changed as I did the grieiving. At first I mourned the loss of the pregnancy, then a while later (weeks or months), it was the loss of a baby, then that solidified into the loss of my baby and some further mourning that I had to do. You may or may not go through these emotions but I know that when we were wrestling with whether to ttc or not again right away dh mentioned that I didn't seem to be mourning the loss of a baby but more the loss of the pregnancy. So my language was very consistent with yours. I think it's because it's all about being pregnant and for many women the focus is on the pregnancy first and then a few months into it there is a "oh my god, what have we done?, our lives are going to be changed forever by having this child".

So it sounds like you're normal. A very sad welcome to you and as others have said, please feel free to comment or ask questions or to simply vent as time goes on.

Huge hugs,

Sandy