Hi,

It's been 16 months since my miscarriage and I can tell you that it's definitely been easier since the passing of the first anniversaries. It's not always fantastic, and I've had my moments since the first anniversaries but I haven't had the complete and utter breakdown that I used to have so many weekends before the first anniversaries. Everyone's experience is different though and if it takes longer than a year for you there's nothing wrong with that.

I think I would have recovered faster if my sister hadn't gotten pregnant just six weeks after I did. It's still difficult to talk to her, but as many know, she hasn't been the most sympathetic. Don't be surprised if you have setbacks now and then as your brother and wife go through their excitement.

I'm so sorry you're finding it hard - it's a brutal process. I used to take a lot of comfort here knowing that I wasn't alone and apparently over-reacting. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it would be to lose a baby at 25 weeks - mine was only 8 weeks when we found out there was no heartbeat and it was a devastating experience.

Huge hugs. It does get easier but it takes time, patience, and strength.

Sandy